It’s all over FB, Twitter and TV, “Change Your Words and Your World Will Change.” I firmly believe that.

Yet, when it comes to kids, we say things like, “I don’t care what you say.” “Stop acting like a brat!” “Don’t be stupid!”

What message do those words send?

Don’t forget that your words also define your child’s world. They define how your child sees him/her self and how they’ll define what they think they’re capable of as they grow toward adulthood.

The sign I attached to this is a perfect example of the kinds of things we say to ourselves when we mess up. So why not also say them to your child as you begin talking about their mistakes.

Those kinds of statements stop power struggles, increase listening and let a child know we’re all a work in progress.

As Jane Fonda says, “We’re not supposed to be perfect.”