We all do it. We fill in the blanks for our kids. We take that uncomfortable moment when no one is talking and speak on behalf of our child.
It automatic, instinctual, or as Martha says, “It’s a good thing.”. But is it really?
I”m not talking about the popular “sportcasting” that’s helpful for really young kids. I’m talking about filling in the uncomfortable silence that happens when an adult asks your child a questions and they don’t answer, so you do.
Think about it this way, tension creates movement. If you hold back from filling in the conversation, maybe wait for a count of 10, you might be amazed at what happens. Either your child will step up and answer the question, which will make them feel empowered because they’ve overcome an uncomfortable moment. OR the adult asking the question will realize they need to step up ask another question so they can connect further to your child. Either way, it’s an emppowering moment.
Last night the newly revised version of “Stop Reacting and Start Responding” arrived! If you’re enjoying the “Sticky Notes Series” you’ll love the book. Get yours TODAY, I’m autographing the 1st 100! They’re going fast! www.proactiveparenting.net