Each and every one of us has been impacted by the words someone said to us at one time or another in our lives. Sometimes the words inspire, applaud or affirm us in some way. Other times the words are hurtful, demeaning or judgmental and play like a broken record over and over again in our head.
This happens to your children as well. Children define themselves by the words that are said to them. It’s a huge responsibility being a parent and having that much influence over another human being.
But you have a choice.
We all have choices about the words we say to one another. You don’t have to react, you can respond and teach instead.
Who ever said you have to speak when you’re feeling angry, frustrated, disappointed, short on time or energy—because you don’t.
In fact saying, “I’m not ready to speak to you right now.” is one of the most powerful things a parent can say to a child. It sends the silent message that you mean business. It allows you to take a moment to collect yourself so you can decide how you want to handle things. It also allows you to shift from reacting … to responding.
Today is the last post in the Listening Tips Series. I hope you’ve found them helpful.