Highlights from 10 No-Yelling Methods
SORRY for the super long post. Due to mandatory blackouts in CA I’m releasing the highlights from 10 No-Yelling Methods in a long email and this post.
Family life can be frustrating AND love 💘 is the best feeling in the world.
Did you know that “AND” is one of the most important emotional words in the English language? The word “AND” allows two opposing feelings to exist at once.
My kids are fully grown. I loved parenting AND I was stressed,😫 emotionally exhausted and frustrated 😤 by the way I was correcting behavior and the results of those corrections.
It’s highly likely that you’ve experienced both positive AND negative feelings separately, and at the same time while parenting.
Close your eyes. 🧘
Imagine a situation or a moment when you felt connected to your child as you corrected behavior. You said all the right words. Your child felt heard and listened instead of arguing with you. When you feel a connection like that AND correct behavior, the moment holds the promise of change.
Now, close your eyes. 🧘
Imagine a situation when you were frustrated, angry, and felt like running away from home. When you feel like that AND correct behavior, the moment is usually intense and not productive.
When two sets of opposing feelings collide, confusion sets in and reactions occur. That’s the moment when you need to rely on your parenting methods to support you and bring you back to being calm and firm at the same time, which is what your child needs.
That’s what the 10 No-Yelling methods that Teach & Correct while you remain Calm provides.
Most parents want their children to grow into who they’re meant to become. 🎯
AND most parents are appalled that yelling and timeout don’t seem to change behavior. 🎯
AND most parents are appalled that yelling and timeout don’t seem to change behavior. 🎯
Timeout stops misbehavior at the moment but creates no lasting changes.
Some parents think corrections need to be loud and forceful. That’s not true, AND it’s not what this ebook is about.
In fact, at first glance, the 10 No-Yelling methods may not seem powerful enough to transform behavior, but they are! When the methods are used daily to address the issues that pop-up, they make a huge difference in relationships AND creates momentum and results.
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* Let me be very, very clear.
Parenting is hard 😖 AND no 1 method can transform all types of behavior.
Using a new method means there will be setbacks and challenges for both of you. That’s normal AND good news! It means growth and change are occurring.
My mission, should you choose to accept it, is for you to regain your true authority by using the 10 No-Yelling methods so you can transform behavior into learning moments AND get off the punitive treadmill.
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Here’s are the highlights for 10 No-Yelling methods that Teach & Correct while you remain Calm. These methods are purposely scaled down to kindergarten language so parents can remember, and kids can understand when flooded with anger.
Method #1: As explained in email #2.
Challenges and setbacks don’t mean the methods you’re using aren’t working. Method #1 explains why and what to do.
Method #2: “Don’t you dare argue with me!!”
You both think you’re right. You don’t want your child to think (s)he can control others by overpowering them. You begin to yell to shut down the struggle. Your child doesn’t feel heard, so she yells back. This goes back and forth AND forth and back!
Method #2 explains what both parent AND child are feeling when locked in a power struggle. Shares how to unplug a power struggle without losing your authority AND of course does it all without yelling.
Method #3: Have you ever gone from calm to furious in 1.2 seconds?
Of course, you have. Method #3 explains how mad gets triggered inside of you.
Of course, you have. Method #3 explains how mad gets triggered inside of you.
What it feels like when mad morphs into furious. How mad motivates your words and actions. And what to do to return to being calmer.
Method #4 “Ignore her, she just wants your attention!”
I’m sure you’ve heard that?
Method #4 shares the mistaken assumption children make about attention and how that translates into using behavior to gain attention. Ignoring a true bid for attention without teaching a child a better way to ask for your attention, won’t change things. It makes things worse! This method shares what to do to change that dynamic.
Method #5 (ages 2-4) “Stop her now, before she does that again!”
Most parents use a timeout to correct a 2-4 yr. old. The question is, does timeout work, does it work for all ages, AND for every situation?
Methods #5 shares how to correct behavior using a calm, repetitive, predictable sequence of words and actions that supports learning for 2-4’s. This method tells little ones what is, and what isn’t acceptable AND what to do instead, all without yelling or punishing.
*This method takes less than 10 seconds and uses repetition, which is the best, most age-appropriate way for an emotional child to truly pay attention when being corrected.
Method #6: (ages 5-9) “Do it now, or else!”
Timeout is how most parents’ correct behavior these days, but does it really work?
Method #6 is a radically different, updated way of correcting behavior that works! This method helps a child discover how to turn resistance and anger into accepting the results of their actions. This method helps parents create aha-learning-moments that transform behavior.
Method #7 (ages 9-16) “When will you think before you act!”
Most parents assume their tween/teen should know better by this age. However, when hormones emerge, behavior becomes more impulsive which causes a new level of learning.
Method #7 shares a 6-step process that teaches kids how to review the feelings and situations that led to the misbehavior or mistake. This method empathetically works with your child to create a plan to resolve the situation. It creates a safe space to speak honestly about the problem, damage, or result. And shows parents how to create teaching apologies to make things right.
Method #8: “Are you ever going to listen and follow the rules?”
Method #8: Uses broad categories for rules so many situations fit under one broad heading. The rules apply to everyone in the family, which creates an implied agreement AND reduces anger and arguing. Method #8 rules express family values, show a child the reason for the rule, what happens when a rule is broken, and become the guidepost for both you AND your child when expected AND unexpected situations pop-up.
Method #9: “Sooorrreee!!!”
When someone apologizes using an attitude AND insincere tone of voice, you don’t buy it for a moment. All parents want their kids to use heartfelt 💘 apologies AND make restitution for their transgressions.
Method #9 takes apologies to the next level AND teaches kids that actions speak louder than words. This form of apologizing introduces the concept that different people have different needs which require different ways to make genuine apologies.
Method #10 “What did you just say??!”
Being talked to disrespectfully is usually the match that lights the argument fuse. No parent likes dealing with an attitude. You want a way to shut down disrespect, without being disrespectful.
Method #10 shares a method that uses two words that instantly shuts down disrespect, creates change and cooperation and re-sets the situation immediately. Who doesn’t want that!
Phew, that was a lot of information!
Let me quickly summarize the 10 No-Yelling methods that Teach & Correct while you remain Calm.
Method #1: Explains what’s happening AND what to do when you introduce a new method and are met with repeated bouts of misbehavior.
Method #2: How to stop a power struggle AND the arguing, once it’s begun.
Method #3: A visual/physical way to teach kids what mad is all about AND how to return to calm.
Method #4: How to shift where your attention comes from so a child doesn’t use misbehavior as a source of attention.
Method #5: ages 2-4. An age-appropriate calm, supportive way to teach little ones that this behavior is not okay, without yelling.
Method #6: ages 5-9. A calm, empathetic way to teach kids how to turn resistance and anger into accepting the results of their actions, without yelling.
Method #7: ages 9-16. A calm AND instructive way to teach older kids how to acknowledge, review, learn from, and take responsibility for their mistakes and misbehavior, without yelling.
Method #8: Uses global terms to teach kids about boundaries, rules, values and what happens when you break the rules AND does it all without punishing or yelling.
Method #9: Teach kids how to make heartfelt 💘 apologies through restitution.
Method #10: And finally, you’ll learn the two most powerful words in parenting.
These methods are for kids ages 2-16. They introduce and teach life lessons and skills that build upon the other to create independent, responsible, caring individuals who are prepared to be successful in this world.
Duration: Expires this Sunday evening, 10-13-19 @ 12 pm (PST).
Price: $19.95
Thanks for reading, and I’m sorry for hitting you with so much information. Who knew shutting off the power would become the new normal!
Now, go hug your kids!
Sharon