“Yelling causes a child to focus

more on the fact that she’s been yelled at,

and less on the correction you’re trying to make.”



It's possible to:

  • Create learning opportunities that correct misbehavior and inspire responsibility

  • Use language that allows a child to listen without arguing

  • Address disrespect calmly, yet firmly

  • Disengage from power struggles before they begin

  • Truthfully enhance self-esteem without the use of global praise



“Doing something wrong

is how children learn to do something right!”


Stop Reacting and Start Responding has 108 transformative ways to teach children

what to do instead of what they have done, without reacting, yelling or punishing

while calmly, yet firmly, enforcing rules, boundaries and consequences. 


It is possible!


“Asking a question forces

the thinking side of the brain to take over,

calming emotions and reducing negotiating.”


When a child misbehaves the type of question you ask is key.

It has to be non-judgmental, non-threatening, and lead a child to wisdom and resolution.

Stop Reacting and Start Responding shares questions you can use to produce listening,

accountability, respect, responsibility and resolutions.


This is the type of content you can expect from Proactive Parenting


with each purchase of Stop Reacting and Start Responding you will receive

the bonus eBook, Why is Yelling My Go-To Tool? as our gift to you!

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What Makes This Book Different?

Love me when I Least deserve it because that is when I most need it

You want to be the best parent you can be. All parents have times when reactions and yelling occur. Reacting floods your mind with stress, anger and frustration and clouds your ability to think. When you respond your mind remains clear enough to think about, and enforce the learning that’s needed for your child and the situation.

The non-yelling ideas in Stop Reacting and Start Responding transform reactive parenting into confident and calm, yet firm, responsive ways to teach children about misbehavior.

Stop Reacting and Start Responding speaks to the dream you have to parent in a way that inspires listening, respect, cooperation and responsibility.

No parent has the capacity, when involved in an emotional situation, to put the situation on pause while they read a full chapter to search for a way to find a calmer outcome. That’s why each entry in Stop Reacting and Start Responding is no longer that 2 pages. It’s short direct, has sample conversations, and ends with a “quick view” for you to refer back to when you need a refresher of what to do and with each purchase of Stop Reacting and Start Responding you will receive the bonus e-Book, Why is Yelling my go-to tool? as our gift.

Stop Reacting and Start Responding™

  • Is a no-nonsense reality-based book showing how to resolve “real” family situations in real time, versus the myth that issues can be resolved in 27 minutes like TV families do.
  • Tackles the emotions that both parent and child experience when misbehavior occurs.
  • Acts like your own personal parenting guide, showing you how to respond when you’re involved in a
    power struggle, an argument, lack of cooperation, sibling issues, lying, and so much more.
  • Explores a new non-yelling way to deal with situations so parents can remain calm, loving supportive
    and firm at the same time.
  • Shares a new fresh perspective that acknowledges a parent’s wisdom, and the fact that you know your
    child better than anyone, and know what will, and won’t, work in your family.
  • No scenario is longer than 2 pages, each with a quick view at the end making it easy to refresh your memory
    when you need to.
  • Almost each situation shares a sample conversation, showing you the words to use in order to resolve
    things by responding, not reacting, when things don’t go as planned.


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Chapter examples


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