Parent Talks Include
Empowering concepts that let parents
connect as they correct behavior,
fill emotional needs without sacrificing
the rules and boundaries needed so a
child can find their own muscles of self-regulation
and grow into independent, responsible adults.
Proactive Parenting believes that children are motivated by their own learning
A child’s mistakes and misbehavior are their own personal magnet drawing them to what they need to learn emotionally and behaviorally. When parents use that model as their basis for parenting they find that calm guiding, and empathetic teaching become the methods of choice.
Children form their understanding of themselves, their place in the family, and in the world thru the eyes and interactions of others
Children have been reading the subtle silent clues of those around them since birth. They know what each look, glance, and movement means. However, their understanding is gleaned through a filter of immature thinking which creates a silent dialog within that is not always accurate. When parents shift from using a reactionary authority to a responsive authority, clarity of communication is observed and competency, emotional, and intellectual intelligence increases.
Children communicate everything
Behavior is the strongest communication tool a child has to tell a parent, “I don’t fully understand everything involved in this situation.” When parents see mistakes and misbehavior as a problem, instead of a learning opportunity, a child begins to believe that misbehavior is the best way to get my parents attention and the information I need. This aspect of parenting is easily changed by shifting the way behavior is corrected, and by using age appropriate concepts that work with a child, instead of against a child.
Adults are not only a child’s best teacher, they are their mentor and guides
When a parent uses the mindset of acting as a mentor or a guide they are intuitively connected to what needs to be taught, clear about the information the child needs to have, and less apt to deplete themselves emotionally. All of those things preserve the connection between parent and child thereby keeping the door open to increasing listening and cooperation.
Solutions to RE-Balance the Family After a Long Day at Work
Empowering Ways to Deal with Outburst
Mindful Strategies: Q & A Forum
Mindful Strategies for Switching from a Work-Mindset to Family Time
Strategies to Increase Listening and Cooperation
Reframing Communication to Transform Correcting Behavior
Why Yelling is a Waste of Time
Preschool Ages 2-5: Solutions to Reduce Tantrums and Reaction