This book lives on my nightstand. It grows with your child and I've found I often revisit concepts as my son enters a new developmental phase. Sharon's advise promotes respectful, loving interactions. She gives you the tools to respond consciously rather than just "becoming your mom/dad" when it comes to reacting to your child's behavior. I started out as a spanking parent. The truth is, it never really worked for my son. We are all rookies, especially with that first child. Many of us have said things like "I was spanked and I turned out just fine." But if we really dig deep, is fearing your parents "just fine"? Stop Reacting and Start Responding helps parents respond so a child's decisions aren't tied to fear.
“Stop Reacting and Start Responding is written for us, real parents who face real challenges with our kids. Fifty pages in we're talking about gratitude and feeling grateful. I applaud Sharon and look forward to incorporating some of her ideas (with attribution) into my world-wide "Your Child's Brain" series. Feel hopeful, inspired and confident with Sharon Silver's, Proactive Parenting, it's going to make all the difference for you and your family.”Dr. Lynne Kenney, PsyD, Pediatric Psychologist and author of
“A glorious collection of parenting tips that moms can instantly use to help them raise good and caring kids.”
“I interview top parenting experts every day for my work, but Sharon Silver stood out to me the very first time I talked to her. Her advice to parents is incredibly calming and very do- able. I especially appreciate that her solutions always include sample conversations parents can use with their kids. Concepts are fine and good, but providing actual words we can use—That’s pure parenting gold. I highly recommend Stop Reacting, and Start Responding™.”
“A down-to-earth parenting book written by a real expert— one who has been in the trenches with her own children and taught parenting to others for 18 years. Full of wisdom and experience, Sharon’s voice comes through in all the many tips she gives for multiple situations real-life parents face.”
“Sharon really does seem to see the entire relationship between parent and child in our interactions in a way that most authors and experts don’t. I think my entire parenting experience would have been easier if I’d known about her work when my older one was younger.”
“Parenting is hard! We all get caught up in the moment and forget how we’re supposed to handle things at times. That’s when we blindly react and likely contribute to the problem with our reaction. Sharon’s book provides a better way by teaching us how to respond more effectively while making your child feel acknowledged and loved.
This book of tips is designed for busy parents to use as a tool in their arsenal of parenting skills—tools that work! Sharon’s manner is caring yet firm and her analysis of child- care situations is always on target. Her help works, and kids respond!”
“I highly recommend this book! So often (as parents), we forget that our children aren't little adults, they are still learning to live in this world and often have stages in their life where they really can’t be the child we expect or want them to be.
Stop Reacting and Start Responding™ shares hints and tips on how to maintain a loving, respectful environment in the home, while still working within the busy world of a growing, changing family. It was refreshing to be able to quickly reference tips and not have to read a book cover to cover in order to feel prepared to institute the strategies identified.
After reading Sharon’s book, I came away feeling refreshed and refocused on my vision of the kind of parent I want to be. The strategies shared in her book empowered me to be a more thoughtful, empathetic, intentional parent.”
"After reading this, I discussed it with my husband, and we both took a big step back and said 'ok we need to re-evaluate our discipline steps, and try this out' because it sounds healthy, it sounds like it promotes emotional growth, while setting parental boundaries without being a hard ass about it and ruining your day. Thank you so much for writing this!" Mom from Circle of Moms