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Two days to Thanksgiving and the pressure is mounting. To add to the chaos, your child is just NOT listening. You say blue, and she says purple. You ask nicely, she refuses. You yell and repeat yourself, she ignores you. It feels like she only listens when you raise...read more
You have it. I have it. Every parent has it. Every person on the planet has it. But we don’t always know we have it. And we don’t always trust it. What is it? It’s your knowingness. Your guts. Your intuition. It is, in my opinion, one of the most critical pieces of...read more
How can punishing kids be dangerous you ask? Well, depending on the punishment, and the child's reaction to it, the results can actually alter your relationship for a lifetime. That may sound a little dramatic but, I will never forget the pain on one dad's face as he...read more
Every parent, and every child at one time or another has experienced overwhelm. When adults are overwhelmed we know we need to take a step back, breathe, take a walk, exercise, or do whatever we do to manage the intensity. Adults have even been known to become...read more
I'm sitting here thinking about what my kids said to me on this Mother's Day. The sentiment that was clearly expressed was, "Thank you mom, for letting me be me." They acknowledged we didn’t always see eye-to-eye. They also acknowledged that they always felt loved,...read more
Everyone wants to feel whole, powerful and in charge of their lives. Getting the great job was the goal. √ Finding the right partner was the goal. √ Having kids was the goal. √ But now, the goal has turned your world upside down. √ You feel trapped. You’re...read more
What are YOUR thoughts about the spanking research that has emerged? As you may have guessed, I’ve given this a lot of thought. This is a long, but important post. Being a child who was spanked, I’d like to shift the spanking conversation away from “should you” or...read more
Time Magazine online posted an article about timeout that's worth the read. Most parents use a “traditional” timeout to correct behavior. But there’s another way parents use timeout, too. A subtle, less traditional method that never announces. “You’re in timeout.” It...read more
When you’re coming from a place of strength you’re able to feel your intuition, your love, your empathy. You’re more capable of finding solutions that fit the moment.
When you come from a place of worry, you’re so uncomfortable that you become short tempered, ready to pounce at a moments notice.
Spring Break and Wonder Woman Gifts The above picture came from a quiz I took on Facebook. Look ma, I’m Wonder Woman! Most days I feel like that; a strong, capable, empowered woman ready to handle almost anything. However, some days I feel like the blob. Stumbling...read more
When baking a cake, you add things in a certain order so the cake will rise. If you don’t, the cake will be flat, or uneven, or possibly raw in the middle. There’s a similar design in parenting, too. There are times in life when kids are open and available to parental...read more