What’s Proactive Parenting?
You fell in love with your child the moment he/she took their first breath.
You knew you would walk over hot coals for this child, and no one really wants to walk over hot coals!
Gazing into the eyes of your newborn, overcome with love, it never occurred to you that you would use yelling to correct behavior.
You wanted to teach and calmly correct your child.
You wanted to empower and support him/her. But now you find yourself yelling and punishing again and again.
Truth be told, you’re emotionally worn out.
You’re not sure that yelling and punishing even works, but it’s all you’ve got, so you do it again and again.
You don’t want anyone to know how frustrated you really are.
And you long for a way to do this parenting thing calmly, with confidence and authority, instead of rushing around reacting and acting like someone you swore you’d never become.
Does that sound about right?
It’s not my job to tell you what to do, or how to parent, nobody appreciates that. Yet every parent I have ever met asks me the same question, in one way or another. They want to know, “Am I doing this the right way? Will I harm my child by the way I’m parenting?”
I don’t know you, and yet I do know you. You are the expert on your child. You know what works with your child, and what doesn’t.
Despite all that you know about your child, and your parenting, you’re still looking for:
A fresh perspective to invigorate you and your parenting.
Some new ideas that actually work!
Ways to teach instead of punish, and ways to empower instead of threaten.
How to remain connected to your child so (s)he will hear you.
Ways to manage the things that emotionally drain you, the tantrums, disrespect, arguing, outbursts, and the constant need to correct behavior.
Good News! That’s where Proactive Parenting can help.
Let me be very clear, change requires a strategy, a plan in order to reach your goal, especially when you’re emotionally worn out and easily triggered. Without a plan, you can get confused and fall into a quagmire of non-action.
Proactive Parenting is all about strategies and options of what to do.
You choose what you think will work for you and your child.
You choose what feels right, what sounds like you.
You choose what will work with your child’s temperament, your values and rules.
No one should tell you how to parent, because every choice you make will teach you, and your child something about yourselves, and each other.
Take a look around Proactive Parenting to see how we can help you shift from reacting to responding, so you can reach your goal of parenting with less yelling.
We have a course that explains another way to look at, and deal with, the intense preschool years called, When Development is Dressed as Misbehavior.
And we have another series that shows you to use age appropriate fun ways to teach and correct preschool behavior called, the Every Day Solutions ToolBox.
Our next series, grows up with your child by showing you how to deal with yelling, arguing, lack of listening and cooperation, and how to create learning consequences. It’s called The Authentic Parent Series, for children ages 5-18.
Our newest offering respects your time and attention by using a membership system. It’s called Stop Reacting & Start Responding: The Course, a month by month learning opportunity.
No parent wants to face parenting issues alone, so we support you with one-on-one private coaching, too.